When someone has been traumatized as a
child, it will alter the development of the child. The earlier the
trauma and the more severe, the more likely there will be lasting
effects. Not being parented the way you wanted to be can set you up
for all sorts problems such as of issues with authority figures,
being ill at ease in social situations, and be more likely to
experience addictions, intimacy issues, anger and
self-destructiveness.
Childhood abuse and dysfunctional
families are not uncommon but often hidden and not discussed. In
fact, family problems in general tend to be concealed or swept under
the rug. Like a wound that lingers and festers, this can become a
nagging and stressful situation.
When there is poverty, addictions,
anger, divorce and violence in a family, it is usually the children
who are most deeply affected. But more subtle forms of family
dysfunction also take a toll on kids. Parents who are absent or
indifferent or just don't know how to be a good parent can also cause
lingering emotional scars.
Parents with bad boundaries raise
children with bad boundaries. That means that the appropriate mode of
feeling and behavior is missing or impaired. If you were made to feel
that you aren't good enough, that is a kind of spiritual wound, as it
may affect the rest of your life. A spiritual wound is about emotion
more than it is about logic. It is not what is in your head, but what
is in your heart that is the problem.
Any organism that is prevented from
getting what it wants or needs is said to be frustrated. And
frustration causes anger. This anger may be directed at the self or
at others. Anger directed at the self makes someone into a victim who
is indifferent to their own self interests. Anger directed at others
makes someone antisocial – indifferent to the feelings of others,
which in the underlying factor in violence or crime. In either case
this bad behavior hurts self or others because the appropriate mode
of feeling and behavior is missing.
Every living cell has two modes: growth
or protection. It has to be either one or the other and not both
at the same time. The energy and chemicals in a cell that would
normally be used for growth and maintenance is used up when a cell is
in the protection mode. And over time a cell will suffer or perish if
it is unable to return to a normal growth condition.
Unresolved stress, fear, and negative
emotions will eventually result in diminished health and illness.
When someone is pushed beyond their limits, they will shut down or
flee. If you hold your breath until you pass out, then your body
takes over and you breathe again. So when the mind and body oppose
each other, the body will eventually prevail. It is simply a matter
of self-preservation.
Life is ever more stressful as the
complexity of life increases. So finding and developing a coping
strategy is essential. Unfortunately the media typically portrays
characters who, when there is a problem resort to a weapon or a
bottle of whiskey which only compounds the problems.
An athlete is a better role model because a good role model keeps his cool because he has rehearsed the appropriate mode of feeling and behavior. Training the body, mind and emotions in preparation for a contest, the athlete envisions the future and rehearses to increase stamina and agility. Many of the best athletes have a visualization coach whose job it is to train their mind.
An athlete is a better role model because a good role model keeps his cool because he has rehearsed the appropriate mode of feeling and behavior. Training the body, mind and emotions in preparation for a contest, the athlete envisions the future and rehearses to increase stamina and agility. Many of the best athletes have a visualization coach whose job it is to train their mind.
We are capable of imitating movements,
actions, skills, behaviors, gestures, sounds, speech etc. because we
have 'imitation systems' in the brain. Hero and heroine
refers to people who display courage in the face of danger and
adversity. A guru is one who
is regarded as having great knowledge, wisdom and authority and who
uses it to guide others (teacher). The term role
model generally means any person who serves as an example,
whose behavior is emulated by others.
The phrase "mind's eye"
refers to the human ability for visualization, or for the
experiencing of visual mental imagery; in other words, one's ability
to "see" things with the mind. You hold your past successes
and failures in your imagination, ready for recall.
"We know that the
mind “is incalculably powerful and can solve our problems if we go
about using it the right way. The best way is to hold in your
conscious mind as often as possible a clear picture of yourself
already having accomplished your goal. Know what you want. Define it
clearly, and then project it on the motion picture screen of your
mind. Hold it. See yourself doing and having the things you have when
your objective will have been reached. Do this as often as practical,
particularly at night just before you go to sleep and the first thing
upon waking. As you do this, your subconscious will begin to lead you
toward your objective. Don't fight it. Follow your sudden hunches,
the ideas that come into your mind, knowing that they may well
represent subconscious knowledge.” - Earl Nightengale
Creative visualization refers to the
practice of seeking to affect the outer world via changing one's
thoughts; using the power of your imagination to create
what you want in your life. There are many different ways that
creative visualization can be used but the most important thing to
remember is to use creative visualization often, to make it a regular
part of your life. Most people seem to find that it works best to
practice it at least a little every day, especially when they are
first learning. Creative visualization is such an innately powerful
process that even five minutes of conscious, positive meditation can
help balance out hours, days, even years of negative patterns.
Essentially emotion directs the focus
of your thoughts. And since you can learn to manage your emotions,
this is an important key to changing your life for the better.
Quietening the mind is the central idea of meditation. There are
various kinds of meditation techniques, both religious and
non-religious. Finding the one best suited to you is essential. By
practicing these simple, yet very effective techniques you will
increase your ability to focus mentally, handle stress, and perform
better in all areas of your life.
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